The choice

We were all sitting in the living room when we heard a glass object smash broken in the kitchen.

I had an immediate urge to ask "क्या टूटा?" (What's the new thing that broke?) in a very slanderous tone - making fun of the situation and also in effect belittling the other person for an accident that no one wanted to happen. I stopped because Amit, whose house we were in, rushed to the kitchen and asked Alpana "कहीं लगी तो नहीं?". (I hope you did not get hurt!)

I felt ashamed of myself.

Throughout my growing years, this was possibly the first time I had encountered such an emotionally intelligent response to an accident like this. I realized that I now have a choice - between the regular response that I had been used to and the new response that I just experienced... Now I consistently choose the latter...

A realization also dawned. That at times people who we work with don't even know that they have choices available - because they are never exposed to the alternate responses. So, when we are not happy about the way someone is 'reacting' in a situation, we would do a lot of good by simply 'proacting' in the same situation and demonstrating a response that a 'transition person' would give. Others will automatically accept the new way to respond sooner or later and be thankful to you :-).

The Bird that flew after sunset

We were going to the Gurudwara a few days back and we saw a bird flying pretty low in the trees around the park...

Birds usually don't fly in the dark. They rest at home after sunset. But this one was flying in circles close to a lamp-post.

I felt concerned. It was strange. I had never seen a bird flying in that pattern earlier... It was brownish in colour - from what I could see in the yellow sodium light. So, it wasn't a crow or a pigeon or a mynah and was big enough to rule out a home sparrow also, but small to be an eagle... These are the birds that I am used to seeing in our local park.

I called out to the bird. I knew it would not understand what I said, but I felt that a kind voice would still be registered different from an aggressive tone and the bird may calm down a bit. It would let me come close and see if there as something I could do... However, the bird flew away when it heard me calling out.

The concern remained, but there was little I could do about it...

Just day before yesterday, I went to the park to see if moon has risen on the horizon... And there it was, sitting on the park bench... I saw it at such close quarters for the first time and a realization dawned. This bird did not need my help in the dark... It was an owl...

At times we feel concerned about others because we don't know them well and we attribute our / or generic weaknesses to them also...

They may not always need our help... They might be adept to find their ways through the dark...

Eagle's nest

The king of the skies - the eagle - also has to finally build its own nest...

In the kingdom of God, the kings also have to make a place for themselves by their right action...